But on FB, life is all 'rosie' - only smidgets of our perfect lives! NOT.
Too many people are depressed, suicidal, miserable because they THINK life should be perfect. It's not. I'm not about to contribute to the 'illusion' either, not for anyone.
22 years we have been married. WORK. It's not the first argument and won't be the last.
Of course I had a comment from a 21 year old - wise in the ways of marital relations, that I was airing 'dirty laundry'. I was truly disappointed, that was the first comment that young man has ever made to me. I know him. Storm and he spent the 1 year of their lives together almost daily. Oh well. I'm glad my son appears to have better manners.
Then I had to laugh and shook my head..
There it is.. 'Bitching', in essence, I guess, according to him. I hope his future bride pays attention. I guess we should keep it all in, let it out other ways... perhaps kick the dog when we walk by or better yet, pick up the bottle and drown our sorrows in silence, it is what too many already do.
Only positive posting - give me a break... this is the problem, I have friends who’s marriages are disintegrating. One was saying all they do is fight, but everyone they hang out with has 'perfect relationships'. With divorce rates what they are, the facts are that WE don’t all have perfect lives, far from it! We argue, IF MORE people admitted it - we might not have such serious issues with mental illness and depression for one! Instead of keeping it in and building up! Pretending to the rest of the world that our lives are perfect.
STRESS IS the number one killer - it grows until it comes out in some other form of illness like cancer. I’m sorry my facebook page/ website is not all carefree, sunny, playing guitar and having a drink in my hand every other photo - life is just a ball. Woot, Woot, who wants to party!!
That is not the 'illusion' I live. If it is yours then you are blessed, celebrate!
I wonder if the young man will feel the same after 20 years of marriage, after 20 more years of life. How will he deal with his 'dirty laundry'.
I have nothing to be ashamed of - If not for Norm and I fighting - we would NOT be together still. That is a ‘real’ationship’ ! For better or worse.
It could be a lot worse... now the floor is done, it’s already better.
I thought about that post this morning and now after today.. I am even more convinced it was the right thing to do!
If you don’t like my page, or website stay off. Un-friend. Delete.
Especially, if the only thing you ever has to say is negative, please do me that favor.
Next week the stairs.
Photos of my craft table ! Before and after. It was a very productive day, 2 batches of home made cookies too!