It is not for me to understand.
Sad for the loss of Jim, sad now to see what Elly is dealing dealing with and to see how sad and heartbroken she truly is… even thought she puts on a good front.. for the sake of Sierra & Logan, and even me. I can see her black circles and lack of sparkle in her eyes.
Jim and Elly have been my family rock the past few years, even at times when I was not communicating so well with my own mom (she get’s it), Jim helping in many ways I am only realizing now - of course, ;( including recipes.
Sierra and Logan, a testament to Jim also brave faces but I see the sadness slip in constantly during the corse of a few hours. They were very close. They went everywhere as a family, and did much!
He was out golfing for his birthday. He was thrown from the golf cart and died after sustaining “significant” head injuries. Head injuries that no family member of a loved one should have to witness as he lay in a hospital bed with everything hooked to him. I won’t forget it for a while and I know his family and children will not. Not after speaking to him, holding his hand, kissing his cheek as he lay in a coma. All begging him to come back.
Elly will not forget for a very long time - she lost her best friend.
Sad is putting it mildly - just like reading ‘significant’ - when I want to say - never in my life would I have though he would have looked like that after being thrown from a golf cart. Devastated, shocked, horrified, traumatized - they are words that come to mind. Still they make the ‘actual visual’ seem mild. At the time - we still only saw Jim.
Are you aware how many injuries happen on Golf courses and how many children are hurt in golf cart accidents? Do some research… I had no clue.
Does a family member play? A loved one? Then take the time to make them aware!
There is much more Elly is learning. I can only shake my head in shock at most.
People don’t talk about it but they should. OR it might be your husband, brother or dad that this can happen to. Lady golfers too! I use to be one.
Jim made me laugh every time I spoke to him, every e mail he replied would ‘try’ to make me laugh & was successful, either because it was funny or I could say - “You’re such a *&^%!” and then we would both laugh.
I’m a bit better, because well - I know Jim above all else would not want us to be crying.
Elly shared with me, because of his size many would comment once they heard: it was on a golf course - ‘Oh - a heart attack!’ Compared to this - that would have been a blessing.
Well no, not a blessing you see Jim also besides giving blood, raising thousands of dollars for research, coached kids baseball, volunteered countless hours for too much to mention - - donated his organs and a gentleman received his heart!
Someone is still alive because of Jim and his selflessness.
PLEASE share this Blog, story, article.
I read the comments on the bottom of the online article and at first I was angry - instant- then a calm came over me - none of these people knew Jim, they are all making ASSumptions and they are being mean, thoughtless judgmental &^%$#. Norm said they would never say such things to us in person as they hide under internet anonymity. I’ve heard in such cases - people are told - ‘go write something negative’ - we all see it now on the many court dramas - some of the levels people will stoop.
Fine by me, fine by us.. any of us who knew (& LOVED) Jim, we do not care what anyone thinks. Because we KNOW.
I can’t remember the last time I was at a 'packed house' funeral - standing room only.
That was Jim. Elly is still getting letters of condolences, still calls from people only now finding out and no... it was not a heart attack.
He was thrown from a golf cart and died a horrible death!
A day I wish I could take back for Elly, Sierra, Logan my aunt & uncle and cousin Joe ;( ALL of US! Jim’s family, our extended family and the many, many friends and co workers - who Jim made LAUGH. We miss him very much… Elly is missing him more.
Elly just had her first 22 year anniversary - withOUT her husband & in the same weekend,
Sierra & Logan just had their first fathers day with out their dad.
Taken too soon, a wonderful dad with so much still to share.
A few of my favourite family photos below…
I miss you Jim.
Thrown from a golf cart and died a tragic death.
I was there when he died, I know. ;(
Thanking you in advance.
Georgia & Family - even Tequila
- The only one she ever thought ‘tasty enough’ to bite - in her 18 years, was Jim. lol