A friend shared her 'observation' I still remember our conversation- it hit home then and does even more now "the second they get tired of you - you become "crazy", everything you do- they blame you, tell all your friends -she's losing it, she's going crazy..' that was over a decade ago - she eventually had her marriage demise and was told "you're crazy.." Go figure. The new term I hear often is "she's Bipolar". I was actually in a conversation with a group of men & they joked when one said he was 'struggling' with his new wife (#3 ) -"I think she's bipolar" they all laugh.. apparently the last 2 wives were also bipolar. I look at this tall, white haired handsome gentleman as he says this, I've seen his flirting ways and smooth charms already (you know the type) - and think to myself - yeah sure, I bet they were all bipolar.. asshole. All the men are high paid, very professional, smart, educated, successful... I turn to my friend who was one of them when he commented later - again - about her being bi-polar (apparently his ex wife was also Bipolar) and said "Give me a Fucking break! ( I must have appeared Bipolar to him a this point - lol) Are you kidding me?!! There is no 'test' to prove someone is Bipolar but it does not take long to see someone is an asshole." He looked at me - speechless. Good.
Ladies - of all ages PAY attention cause it's not fucking funny. It's never them. I know myself after my brain surgery- every time Norm and I would argue about something he did, which I disagree with - it would turn around to be about me and my brain and "she's crazy.. just ignore her." It was absolutely one of the factors in the demise of our marriage. Bipolar- bullshit.. If this is crazy- fine.. Call me the fucking QUEEN - because I refuse to be labeled for someone elses behaviour and I will not sit passively while you behave badly.
Pay attention- are you listening? It starts slowly.. the signs are there and as soon as you see them- get the fuck out. It's never the adulterer - who promises time an time again - it won't happen again. Never the gambler, alcoholic.. who blames his partner for all that goes wrong in is life. Never the macho man who is in debt but refuses to admit it. Children are growing up watching- young sons & daughters - paying attention to these ' harmful words' if not worse.
How many times does a husband leave his wife for a younger woman?
This is the best 'revenge' out there if you ask me. First of all if he leaves you - Give thanks - he's spared you years of bullshit. You don't need someone in your life who does NOT love you. Younger women now know exactly what they are doing - an old fool and his money will soon be parted just as easy as parting legs. Led by their penis, they get what they deserve. What 20 year old wants a 6o year old? Seriously. For their $$$ yes. That's about it & very soon after - guaranteed- she will fuck around on him with a much younger man- its a tale as old as time. BUT when he wants to get rid of his OLD wife- he easily states to his lawyer - 'she is bipolar' - and it's not funny because high paid lawyers will destroy a woman- they know nothing about - for money. In many cases she DID give her life for decades, raised his kids, kept his home & sucked.. to be tosses aside like trash. Children will be lost in legal battles as well as much else, confidence lost because of years of being blamed and accused of being bipolar- just because you don't agree with your spouse. Bipolar has become and 'excuse' to keep people down and it's mostly women. How often do you hear a woman say "he's bipolar?"
Oh yes, I can appear Bipolar' call it what you want... I call it being sick of bullshit and refusing to be walked over. Yes, I am capable of yelling, throwing etc.. Bipolar? Hardly.
Pay attention to WHO is calling you what? Chances there is more to it that what we SEE.
Chances are it's just another excuse for others to blame for their poor behaviour - it's always easier to blame someone than admit your an asshole. It's a trend- where will it go? Will it become so when a husband accuses his wife of being bipolar- he will be able to have her committed? Sound far fetched? The trend looks frightening the direction it's going.
DO NOT let ANYONE lable you anything you are not! Bipolar? Or just extremely pissed off?
Happy and sad - sure- that's life! Bipolar never goes with 'she's so happy - I divorced her' it's always the negative spin.
IF you think you are bipolar- o.k., what can I say. Please be careful with medications you in your body- note: the description of bipolar blames the environment.
IF you are in a bad relationship - it is a negative environment. GET OUT.
Do you think it's going to get better? Is he lying? Cheating? Drinking? What's next?
Think it will change?
Argue all you want- I guarantee he's thinking - she's a bitch- she's bipolar... and sooner or later he will say it.
* FYI- we talk about my cartoons in this house before 'you all' see them. This one has been on my chalk board for almost 6 months - it's a difficult subject if you SERIOUSLY look into it. Norm & Storm both 'get where I am coming from' believe it or not ;) and the polar bears do not represent 'US/them', *ALL men call the wives crazy when they are upset & (NOT ALL mean it) with them sooner or later.. BUT - it can become very abusive quickly & easily and for many women it has. I thank God It's "only " about 2 people who have grown apart here (25 years - it happens) & still argue, still and will always care for each other.
There is a difference. I have had this conversation for years in this blog & with ALL of my male friends at one point over the years. - I'm known of speaking my mind and not ashamed of it. Too few never speak up and the pain continues.
This 'Bi polar' thing is not correct, women are already struggling more than the average man & are taking medication at alarming rates- how do you think this is effecting families??? The community.. the world?
* o.k. a tiny percentage of men will never call your wives 'crazy' - God bless you and thank you & I sent you a virtual hug! & kiss - on the cheek. ;)