***I posted this blog earlier, then deleted it.. not because it was false in anyway but because I was ashamed, embarrassed.. because, I am actually married to this 'person' who is so intentionally nasty at times, I have no clue 'who he is' after over 32 years, I only know - I don't like him. If I met him now, knowing what I know - now, I would run in the opposite direction.
Part of the problem with domestic abuse is we are shamed, or it's nobody's business, told to 'just ignore it'... who wants to admit the person they agreed to love' a lifetime - turned out to be someone who will blame them for a lifetime, everything he possibly can. Ironically, I am very aware Norm is the Norm, this is how many husband treat their wives, especially after a while... & they just ignore us... proving we are invisible, we mean nothing to them - unless it's time for dinner.
I saw a post and the young woman said 'she use to be envious of 30 year relationships..' that was before she realized most 30 year relationships last because the women just tolerate shit & abuse and give UP. I agree. That doesn't make it right, it's a terrible statement of society that women are FORCED to stay in relationships where we are continuously 'taken from' mentally, physically draining 30 years of take, take, take. In every aspect, I swear somedays I hardly have energy for anything after I deal with something he has done- causing us constant STRESS, over & over again. HE doesn't care & I'm the fool for not admitting that too. He doesn't care. Divorce it difficult & costly in Canada - like everything else. Is anyone shocked the facts, the science & statistics ALL say single women are the happiest, and more and more women once divorcing are remaining single- go figure. WE are done with crap on a massive scale- and men & their constant bad behaviour & 'needing a mother, maid & whore * instead of a wife - made it this way.
No, I am not covered in bruises but I am definitely scarred for life - from the constant bullshit I have had to tolerate for decades & this coffin was the final nail
My advice to young women - don't do it.
So, I am RE posting - not to shame Norm...
NORM shamed himself, the day hecreated that coffin with nasty intent!
Part of the problem with domestic abuse is we are shamed, or it's nobody's business, told to 'just ignore it'... who wants to admit the person they agreed to love' a lifetime - turned out to be someone who will blame them for a lifetime, everything he possibly can. Ironically, I am very aware Norm is the Norm, this is how many husband treat their wives, especially after a while... & they just ignore us... proving we are invisible, we mean nothing to them - unless it's time for dinner.
I saw a post and the young woman said 'she use to be envious of 30 year relationships..' that was before she realized most 30 year relationships last because the women just tolerate shit & abuse and give UP. I agree. That doesn't make it right, it's a terrible statement of society that women are FORCED to stay in relationships where we are continuously 'taken from' mentally, physically draining 30 years of take, take, take. In every aspect, I swear somedays I hardly have energy for anything after I deal with something he has done- causing us constant STRESS, over & over again. HE doesn't care & I'm the fool for not admitting that too. He doesn't care. Divorce it difficult & costly in Canada - like everything else. Is anyone shocked the facts, the science & statistics ALL say single women are the happiest, and more and more women once divorcing are remaining single- go figure. WE are done with crap on a massive scale- and men & their constant bad behaviour & 'needing a mother, maid & whore * instead of a wife - made it this way.
No, I am not covered in bruises but I am definitely scarred for life - from the constant bullshit I have had to tolerate for decades & this coffin was the final nail
My advice to young women - don't do it.
So, I am RE posting - not to shame Norm...
NORM shamed himself, the day hecreated that coffin with nasty intent!
